first male dancer I saw was a local San Antonio guy named Zack who dances/danced tribal fusion. He taught a local class, some old biddy got offended when he subbed for a local teach and split because she had too much pride to learn dance from a guy... her loss. Killer class... abs hurt for days.
A few months back I started looking and sneaking the wife's DVDs (in my head, this was so much better than owning up to wanting to dance) and about a week later I said I was acting like a boy stealing his daddy's playboys and just told her I wanted to start dancing, too.
As for mixed duos - wife and I are slated to perform a dance together for our school district convocation at the beginning of the year... and were planning to keep it flirty but PG... no bump-and-grind... LOL I've seen tasteful and I've seen sleazy... as a guy, I could see how sleazy is tempting... and a dancer, I like tasteful.