Performing male belly dancers exist but they aren't all that common in most places. We have a lot of active male belly dancers in this forum, and although they are a minority even here, they represent a higher proportion here than they do in "real life."
For example, in my area, there are almost no male belly dancers. In my immediate area, there are none I know of, but as I get closer to New York City I can name a few. I've never had a male classmate in any of my classes, I've hardly ever been in a workshop where there was at least one male in class. When I attend shows and festivals, male belly dancers are a rarity if there are any at all (there usually aren't). I've been to plenty of workshops with males teaching though, and my teacher herself was a prodégé of the famous Bobby Farrah.
I find a lot more men in the "teacher/master teacher" ranks than I do in the student or young professional ranks. Although they are still a minority there, they are much more prominent. Just looking at the workshops I will be attending in the next few months, at least half of them are taught by men and/or sponsored by male belly dancers. So they might be a minority but they do have some influence, at least here in the US.
It's a little frustrating to me, not having any male colleagues in my area. I'd love to be able to partner with someone around my age and level, but that is just impossible. I have female friends with whom I do duets, but I like the dynamic of male-female partner work and can't put that into practice because there are no men who belly dance here.
In many places in the Middle East, belly dance as a social dance is done by men and women alike, of all ages, too. If we didn't have these notions here that belly dance is "a woman's dance," perhaps more men would be interested in it.
But another night owl you are
I have seen but one duet, Tarik and Morocco and I did not notice a sexual dynamic there what I saw was basically beautiful and complimentary male and female belly dance together.
I didn't suddenly "get this way" either, when I decided to try Belly Dancing. It also helped that I had been involved with Greek Folk dancing for 5 years when I started BD as well.
Yea, I too had the "two left feet" argument - and I wish I had a penny for every time I've heard it since! I say that if a Klutz like me can learn some grace and how to dance - ANYBODY can!
Dance has changed my life.
My only regret is that I didn't start earlier, I was 35 when I started Greek dancing; and 40 when I started BD. I'm 51 now - thank Goddess for makeup, Henna for my hair, and "Just for men" for my beard!
My intro was the music, I had been listening to it for years and that perhaps because my father was into Lebanese music much of what I remember from my childhood, he being an ex mariner that had travelled far and wide. But of the music as a non dancer I found I was sort of moving to the music as I felt the music inspired the movement and so I sought learning it for real.
Added to that at the time was a back specialist saying perhaps an exercise to control the pain was something I perhaps would not be interested in given what it is after Yoga and pilates were just plain too boring to continue and I did not want surgery on my spine after a twice slipped disc in the same area through lordosis often known as saddle back. What the specialist was on about perhaps jokingly was BD and that because it wakes up, builds and strengthens core muscles, the very muscles that keep the spine in place so to avoid things like slipped discs that happen to unhealthy backs that we in the west suffer, because we are all into removing what nature created through such idiocies as stand up straight. Our increasing sedentary lifestyle also weakens our spine support muscles, so good back exercise is essential and to me BD does it perfectly and it is fun to do.
A computer programmer, long times sitting down, take care of the back, you will know it well when that thing gets upset, there is hardly any discomfort like it, standing, sitting and lying down becomes arduous and painful, nowhere can you find comfort, so my advice having been there is get the core muscles strengthened, even if BD is not your taste, find something that does the job.