The first accident was being run over whilst crossing the street (I was about 10) - that did my back and my neck in so bad I've been on level 4 pain in both since and now level 4 counts as 'no pain' because that's my normal level.
The second was my father who was drunk, on a run to the bottle-o and told me not to tell the police he'd been drinking or else.
The third was the same but this time not drunk just bad driving.
Guess who is no longer a part of my life?
That is messed up I can totally understand he's out of your life, that guy doesn't deserve a daughter.
That's rough all around, Dar. Hugs (gentle ones) to you.