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    I don't mind people observing a class I'm taking if they are prospective students (or parents watching kids, but even then, there are certain limitations- my childhood dance teacher permitted occasional parental watching but kept it to a minimum), but jeez the poor guy. Who would take their date to their thing they are already doing that their date can't really participate in? Sucks for him!

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    That would never have happened in any of my classes which are all female. A male student, however, would be welcome. At the start of class if there are any non students present they are told the class is about to start and asked to leave. No spectators allowed.

    Occassionally classes overlap and we start as the stragglers from the previous are leaving but even students from other classes aren't allowed to watch.

    Sometimes children of a student sit in the corner colouring in because of childcare issues - this is arranged prior to the class and the children have to be quiet and still and if they distract the class have to wait outisde.

    Once, my husband came and sat in on the class by invitation in order to accompany us on the drum. Another time he came at the end of class to film our chorie for us to use to practice. He is very conscious that he has entered a space where he is not usually welcome and that he is the only male. He does his best not to make anybody uncomfortable, consentrates on his task at hand and is a man who is respectful women in general. He makes a point of not watching us dance or paying anybody much attention.

    I do know of one class in my city where spectators are invited. This is a special monthly class with live drumming. You pay one fee to join the class and a smaller fee to spectate. If you can't afford to take the class (or don't have the confidence) it's a great way of learning but of course eveybody is aware up front that is the case.

    It sounds like the student didn't realise her faux pas, nor did her friend, and it was a cute idea to show off her belly dancing to her new beau. However, the teacher sounds liek she was caught by surprise and is not very assertive and hopefully will make it clear to this student and other's that from now on that isn't appropriate.

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    To be blunt, it's not appropriate, ever. Your teacher should've told him that he couldn't do this, in a nice way of course. And her student should've been told nicely as well that this is not the way it goes. I never liked it, never got used to it, and some times I have heard of other students literally start a protest about it so much that the guy had to leave.

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    A blanket rule against spectators makes things easier for all. It avoids so many potential problems and takes the guess work out of who might and might not be allowed to do this.

    With the understanding that, generally, spectators aren't permitted when a non student is invited to sit in on a class for whatever reason it is approached in the right way - meaning the teacher is approached for permission first and then she will check with all of her students if they feel comfortable with the spectator and these dialogues occur prior to class time. That way if the person is not welcome they aren't invited in the first place and if a person is there in the class they feel comfortable knowing that they are welcome and that all there have agreed to their presence.

    It also makes things very straightforward when an intruder tries to lob in on a class for in appropriate reasons.

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    Thanks peeps for the many and varied replies. I just needed to know that I'm not the crazy one! Teacher will be dealing with it, after I told her how I felt about it. Ugh. I probably would have left if I hadn't have been responsible for driving another student to class. I don't want to be uncomfortable in a class I paid for, for goodness sakes!

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    I'm with everyone else - no spectators please. Especially males!

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    A bit late in on this discussion, but my 2 cents' worth anyway:

    I was at yoga class once when the teacher asked a couple who had been invited to watch by another student, to leave. Their self-righteous indignation was matched by the teacher's fury (and a few others', including my own) that they had even thought it appropriate in the first place. It took a while to settle down and enjoy the class after that, but far better than having strangers observing you while in a somewhat emotionally and physically exposed state.

    Sometimes at dance class there are non-dancers present. Babysitters politely stay in another room until the class is over; sometimes female relatives or friends visiting from interstate have sat in as well. I'm not totally comfortable with that one myself, even though they have always been respectful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lizaj View Post
    Mrs Grumpy here. How dare teacher allow the situation without the permission of every student and how dare the visitor even think it correct to give feedback. Classes are for participants,students and not for spectators.
    I'm in for this, but over the years we evolved some exceptions
    When you have a group and its over 5 years, we have met with our husbands, boyfriends over many situations.
    Sometimes its ok if someone comes 20 min earlier to pick a wife, and just sit

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    To add insult to injury, I was attending a free workshop one time where a woman brought her husband, her sister and brother-in-law, and her baby. The baby fussed a lot and wanted to crawl around the class, and the rest of her relatives sat in the back, just getting in the way. If it was not a free workshop, I would've definitely balked; in fact, I really wish the instructor would've told her to kindly take her entire familia and beat it.

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    Same thing here, with some m.e. guest of one of the girls. I wouldn`t have minded if it had been told in advance(we were practising zagat, so thats not too bad). The class was taught in english(while the normal language is dutch). At first he didn`t want to join in, but our teacher made him. Better she had not, cause he kept playing different rythems then we where doing(yoh agoei, we just had 3 lessons, shut up!)

    Ow and the intermediate didn`t know he was there, so when they finished they all started to undress...while he still had to pass trew to get to class!

    Again, I wouldn`thave mind that much if it had been told. And if it was like one lesson in which we could all take a guest(my bf first respons was 'ow, then I can go too!'). Or if he had been a serious musican. Sure he was anice guy, but still....

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