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    Quote Originally Posted by Eshta View Post
    I recently discovered the joys of dancing to music that you were into when you were a 'baby belly dancer', it really gave me a big boost to revisit those old songs but also to realise how much more I could make of them now! Worth a shot!
    This also works for me!

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    Cool thread!

    Been there, done that - I spent the whole summer thinking why do I bother (the usual post-performance beating self up ), back to classes thinking much the same, then a few little things come together and you think actually it's not that bad. I went to some great workshops and was not useless, I actually had a clue in improv last week, my teacher is planning a few events (nice to have an external focus), so it's all picking up again.

    It helped to have the summer with no classes; I was able to put it all on hold rather than having my perceived craptasticality rubbed in my face every week.

    The workshops were a big boost - but prescribing workshops with your idol that are pitched just right is not much help! Though I think the change in environment/focus was helpful in itself; in class I sometimes tie myself in technical knots because by default I have my Learning Difficult New Stuff head on, which is about concentrating hard for dubious results (puking camel impersonations, falling over own feet etc), or working towards technical improvement. The "could do better" mindset is built in, and IMHO that is not where you need to be for just dancing. Noodling at home, playing with what you can do, or following bouncing butts and just having a go without sweating it is very good for that side of things, IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by adiemus View Post
    Another of mind is to just 'noodle' for a while and let my body do the talking rather than thinking too hard, does anyone else try this?
    YES -- I think sometimes we get caught up in the technique part that we forget to "Play" with our dancing.

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    Aziyade, that is a great point. Many times we forget that most of us started dancing because it was fun!

    Sometimes this could mean that you need to change direction because what you are currently doing or places you are going are not working for you anymore. I've had that, not realizing what exactly is bothering me or the fact that anything is bothering me. But when my dancing is affected, I know that there is something I need to really think over, and just find out what it is.

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    I'm a bit late coming to this, but have had a time or 2 where I have felt that I want to throw up my hands (& costumes) & walk away from it all. My put the spark back cure is to have nothing to do with dance for a week. I watch goofy comedy movies, or silly stuff on youtube, clean out cupboards and windows (yuck) - so far after a few days of that I find I am looking forward to listening to a few favourite pieces of music, and find I 'need' to dance. So far a few days to a week time out has been enough.

    I sure hope whatever route you choose to take for a 'time-out' break works for you. I think it is normal to have those burn out times with anything one dedicates a lot of physical and thinking time too.
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    Bronnie dear, have you ever read about the periods of disequalibrium that babies and toddlers go through when they are learning new skills? During the six months or so it takes them to learn a new skill, they are grouchy, teary, touchy little souls. Then they conquer the new skill (crawling, walking, whatever) and turn back into cherubs for approximately six months until the next new skill comes up.

    I've been teaching something (agriculture, writing, dancing, needlework, etc) for getting on 35 years now and I find essentially the same thing is true of older students who have hit a new growth spurt in their educational journey- they sort of go to pieces until they get it licked.

    Hang in there! It will get better. And taking a little break might be just what you need before going on to the next level of dance.
    "Well, now that we have seen each other," said the unicorn " if you'll believe in me, I'll believe in you."

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    i can really relate to your situation. i sprained my ankle back in January and I couldn't dance for a while without going all wobbly and strange. My isolations were bad, my technique was disappearing, and my 3/4 shimmy went poof. Like, literally, if you saw me shimmy, you didn't see boom boom boom - I was going poink poink poink. And I had just made it to troupe then (I belong to a bellydance student group/club) where all the dancers are awesome, so there I was, trying my best to dance while everyone else was picking things up easily. I tell you, everything hurt, from foot to ego

    But you know, i tried having fun again, and I agree with everyone else in the thread when they say that sometimes, you just hit a wall. don't rub your forehead and cry about your bruises. Just have fun - find ways to have fun, whether it's another form of art, another form of dance, or just resting and relaxing.

    In my case, I had to stop dancing, and then when my foot got better, try to come back. I danced for 5 minutes a day, then 10, then 20, and so on. I'm now at a constant 2 hours a day, drilling myself to music and just having fun. I've also found that doing the moves slowly adds to the fun - I like discovering how my muscles are working, and I've freaked my roommate out a lot of times with random shouts to the tune of, "Oh, holy night, I think I felt my psoas! woohoo!"

    My point is, it will come back. Everything does, eventually. I even got my 3/4 shimmy rockin' again to the tune of Stayin' Alive. really. It's been fun since. Confidence is back, the fun is back - it took months, and it also took patience.

    Best of luck!

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    I'm late coming into this, too; I'm sorry, Bronnie. Wish I'd seen this earlier. *hugs*

    Bronnie, if this weren't a confidence issue, but a pain issue, how would you handle it? What are the steps you would take to analyze the problem to find a solution?

    Hopefully, looking at the problem with the same mind as you do your other passion, maybe it will help you to take steps to regain your confidence, because in a sense, your self-confidence is in pain. I know you'll find the answer, and you have all of us to cheer you on, support you, and be here for you when you need us.

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    Sweet Bronnie, I think every single one of us can relate to what you're going through right now. I felt I was getting there myself this summer and here's what helped for me, though the other ladies have mentioned this as well.

    I took 2 weeks off of dancing during summer, got out the old world-music (anything non-Arabic ) CD's and listened to those for a while. Took modern dance workshops and went through my old bellydance cds. Not having expectations for a while gave me a fresh start.

    Getting something new I'd loved to add to my dancing for a while worked as well. I got a new veil recently (my first silk one) and the troupe wants to start working on fan veils. You know that feeling of getting a Christmas present you couldn't wait to play with when you were little?

    I hope you get past this soon Bronnie, don't give up! Farasha is right, we will be waiting right here when you need us
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    Well,

    my best remedy for the desease you've described (and, so I think, everybody has got it from time to time) was a trip to Cairo!

    It was amazing to watch, to listen, to feel the music, the atmosphere, the different egyptian dancers and it boosted my dancing enormously!

    Back home I started to work together with live-musicians which helped me a lot.

    Before I always wanted to dance THE _perfect_bellydance stage show, but then I learned to lean into the music, to enjoy the melodies, to follow the rhythms and to feel what the singer tells in the song.

    Maybe, this can be a little help for you, too.

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