Yshka
New member
Dear everyone,
I'm a little torn over something and need some advice. If another dancer asks you to substitute for one of her gigs, what information would you want from her?
If you get a gig and know you are not going to be able to do it, would you leave out asking questions and confirm only price and the location, then look for a replacement dancer and let her find out the rest, or would you ask what needs to be asked and THEN look for a replacement, having her contact the people after things have been made clear just so they know she is replacing?
I'm kind of torn, since the first situation above it what I was told today by a dancer friend I dearly love. She did leave the possibility open to turn it down if what I'd find out was not what I want, even though I'd already have spoken to the people by then. She felt I was being difficult and whiney and got mad at me for asking questions, saying I should call the people to find out instead.
I'm starting to feel that maybe I am being difficult in asking questions and shouldn't have asked, but I also feel I am allowed to know these things before contacting people to tell them I 'might be' substituting. Maybe that's my mistake? Is it wrong to want to know what you are up for before you contact people who are hiring to ask what IMHO should have been asked in the first place? Or does that make me ungrateful and difficult?
Sorry for ranting, it's just that I am currently torn between on one hand, being very grateful to this dancer who has been very generous in giving me her gig, but on the other feeling bad about asking questions or wanting to know what I am getting myself into. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
I'm a little torn over something and need some advice. If another dancer asks you to substitute for one of her gigs, what information would you want from her?
If you get a gig and know you are not going to be able to do it, would you leave out asking questions and confirm only price and the location, then look for a replacement dancer and let her find out the rest, or would you ask what needs to be asked and THEN look for a replacement, having her contact the people after things have been made clear just so they know she is replacing?
I'm kind of torn, since the first situation above it what I was told today by a dancer friend I dearly love. She did leave the possibility open to turn it down if what I'd find out was not what I want, even though I'd already have spoken to the people by then. She felt I was being difficult and whiney and got mad at me for asking questions, saying I should call the people to find out instead.
I'm starting to feel that maybe I am being difficult in asking questions and shouldn't have asked, but I also feel I am allowed to know these things before contacting people to tell them I 'might be' substituting. Maybe that's my mistake? Is it wrong to want to know what you are up for before you contact people who are hiring to ask what IMHO should have been asked in the first place? Or does that make me ungrateful and difficult?
Sorry for ranting, it's just that I am currently torn between on one hand, being very grateful to this dancer who has been very generous in giving me her gig, but on the other feeling bad about asking questions or wanting to know what I am getting myself into. Any advice is greatly appreciated!