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    This article, "Misconceptions about belly dance," talks about collecting tips in your costume vs. not. Is it common to collect tips in your costume?
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    I accept tips in the side of my belt and my shoulder straps of my costume. It's too much like begging to offer a tip jar or basket in my opinion (read...MY OPINION).
    It's preferable to get money showers in true Middle Eastern fashion, but most non-Middle Easterners don't have a clue about it and many times, what ends up on the floor is split in venues where there is a band between the band & dancer and sometimes (horrors...but it's true) the house.
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    Hi Cabbage, I pretty much agree with Gia. I came to this point when I first danced in a restaurant with a Turkish band some time ago. I also had issues taking tips in my costume, but ended up taking them in the sides of my belt and bra straps as well. I does seem like some sort of begging to me also (I was beginning to think I was the only one lol) to carry a basket or the like to place tips in. I was relieved to have some of the customers shower their money over my head.

    In the end I did share with the band, it's pretty common to do that around here. It's not common here to share with the house though. I still don't like costume tipping much, if I don't have to I won't, but in some places here it is usual business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yshka View Post
    In the end I did share with the band, it's pretty common to do that around here. It's not common here to share with the house though..
    Also here in Germany you share tips with the band, but not with the house. The common thing is to give half of your tips to the band and the musicians share this half among them.

    Quote Originally Posted by Yshka View Post
    I still don't like costume tipping much, if I don't have to I won't, but in some places here it is usual business.
    Ha ha Yshka, don't worry you'll get used to it It is the most common way to tip the dancer among people from Middle East, Turkey, Greece and Balkan. And if you dance at a big Turkish wedding for example, there is no better way to collect the tips, especially because sometimes you get A LOT of tips

    Dear Cabbagetheleafy, never let a basket go around, especially if you are dancing for Middle Eastern and East Mediterranean people. They will consider you to be a beggar. It is NO NO.

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    Hi Cabbagetheleafy, another good idea is to use 'plant' in the audience. A frieind or family member that will start the tipping in the manner the dancer prefers. Although, it still may not go as planned
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    I never did become truly comfortable with being tipped in my costume, but the alternative of no tipping at all was even less comfortable, so I learned to go with the fashion.

    Hmmm, maybe we should start a new fashion in belly dance costumes: a beaded and sequined fanny pack attached to the hip band. Audiences could drop their tips right into the bag, with nary a bill ending up on the floor or down the cleavage. The dancer could just shimmy up to the person with the tip, extend her hip and voila! (one would never wear one's fanny pack on the back of one's belt, no matter what the little bag is called )

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    fanny pack



    Tut tut, you said a naughty word. It'll be the Trans atlantic distance thing.

    Lol-good idea btw

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    So, as more of an audience memeber I have a few more questions about tipping
    What if the dancer is dancing in a small smace and comes around twice or more. Should I tip her every time? First time? Second time?
    What happens if I really liked the show but didn't have a chance to tip (e.g. sitting at a table that a dancer could not come to) - should I speak to the owner/host and ask about the dancer?
    Thanks,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sara View Post



    Tut tut, you said a naughty word. It'll be the Trans atlantic distance thing.
    Did I? What does the transatlantic group call the little packs that strap around the waist? (I am not even going to ask what fanny pack means in Europe.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marisha View Post
    So, as more of an audience memeber I have a few more questions about tipping
    What if the dancer is dancing in a small smace and comes around twice or more. Should I tip her every time? First time? Second time?
    What happens if I really liked the show but didn't have a chance to tip (e.g. sitting at a table that a dancer could not come to) - should I speak to the owner/host and ask about the dancer?
    Thanks,
    Marisha
    Good questions, Marisha.

    Usually the dancer comes around a second time in the tip dance not to collect a second round of tips, but to give those who were fumbling for their wallets on the first pass a chance to give their tip. Though I would personally not see any reason why you couldn't tip twice if you wanted to. I know *I* wouldn't mind. *wink*

    I do not tip in the costume. I don't feel comfortable with it, personally--here in the US it has connotations, and I consider the context inappropriate in the US. I know it's how it's done "over there", and in the context of specific ethnic restaurants, where the clientele expects certain details to be "just like home"; but "over here" baskets or "hats" (for buskers) are the norm for those soliciting tips, while tipping in the costume has other imagery I don't personally want to mess with. I dance in American restaurants for Americans. We do a basket dance. There, that is my take on it. This topic can get heated, so we'll just agree to disagree on that point if it wants to go to an angry place.

    That said, when presented a dancer who does not give me an alternative to tipping in her costume, I will try to seek out the dancer after the show (they usually come out in a cover-up to meet the audience or to have a meal around here), give her the tip along with a sincere compliment about her performance. Being a fellow dancer, I would want to seek the dancer out to compliment her personally anyway, so this works out on both fronts.

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