Jane
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I need some impartial advice from a group of sensible people.
A good friend of mine is getting married and asked me to be her matron of honor. I agreed. The groom had a fight with his best friend and now no longer has him as his best man. The wedding party was originally going to be two people standing for the bride and two standing for the groom. Bride/friend wants the wedding party be even in number (as not to hurt the grooms feelings or make him look bad) so I have been asked to step aside in favor of the bride's sister (who her mother insists remains in the wedding party.) Well, I understand stuff happens and I was okay with stepping aside, but bride/friend is now assuming that I am still doing/purchasing/in charge of/planning all the things I was going to do as her matron of honor even though I am not in the wedding party at all now.
So...should I tell her no and that her sister should now be responsible? This is a large ticket wedding 30-40k (American money) and my time/effort/expense would be large. Am I as an ex-matron of honor now off the hook for at least the formal duties? Opinions?
A good friend of mine is getting married and asked me to be her matron of honor. I agreed. The groom had a fight with his best friend and now no longer has him as his best man. The wedding party was originally going to be two people standing for the bride and two standing for the groom. Bride/friend wants the wedding party be even in number (as not to hurt the grooms feelings or make him look bad) so I have been asked to step aside in favor of the bride's sister (who her mother insists remains in the wedding party.) Well, I understand stuff happens and I was okay with stepping aside, but bride/friend is now assuming that I am still doing/purchasing/in charge of/planning all the things I was going to do as her matron of honor even though I am not in the wedding party at all now.
So...should I tell her no and that her sister should now be responsible? This is a large ticket wedding 30-40k (American money) and my time/effort/expense would be large. Am I as an ex-matron of honor now off the hook for at least the formal duties? Opinions?