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    What is the biggest challenge you've faced as a dancer and how have you overcome it? Shyness, terminal clumsiness, one leg shorter than the other, vertigo, lack of cash for lessons, lack of teachers in your area?
    "Well, now that we have seen each other," said the unicorn " if you'll believe in me, I'll believe in you."

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    Biggest challenge I've faced: being ostracised in my local area after a teacher who was a student in a class I was co-teaching in beat me up for correcting her, and my teacher ended up taking her side, despite multiple witnesses.

    How I dealt with it: sheer bloodymindedness. I stood up for myself, got myself a proper education in both bellydance and teacher training, and specialised like whoa.

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    My biggest challenge has always been myself - shyness and lack of confidence. When I started on this dance journey I never, ever, ever believed I would have done what I’ve done. I’d have laughed in your face or run away and hid.

    How did I overcome it? Realising that the only person really stopping me, was me (and still can be me). Taking that very first performance step, and knowing that this dance is something I truly love to be involved in. Trusting in my teachers to want me to succeed, and learning to accept praise. Not taking myself too seriously, and taking every new experience as an adventure and a learning opportunity, whether it turns out positive or not!

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    Same as Duvet, shyness and a lack of confidence, plus losing my ride to my class 30+ miles away. I'm still working on the shyness, and I've overcome my problem of not being able to travel to classes by taking Skype lessons with Darshiva!

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    Age ( starting to dance in my 50s) confidence - confidence has always been an issue in my life & getting out there and dancing was very difficult, having a great teacher & dance friends helped me put my best hip forward & hide my fears, ( they are still there, but I can push through them most of the time) - I feel more confident as a teacher when I was teaching than a performer.
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    Not having access to or money for advanced classes and workshops was a big problem when I was young. In later years, arthritis and depression have been my two biggest dance bugaboos. It's hard to dance when your knees give way and once down on the floor, you just want to sit and cry for a while. Good medication is a blessing but it can't cure everything.
    "Well, now that we have seen each other," said the unicorn " if you'll believe in me, I'll believe in you."

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    Self-doubt and imposter syndrome, which tends to get worse the more I learn (the more you know, the more you know you don't know, etc ), and sometimes stops me putting myself forward for opportunities. I've dealt with the shyness thing too, but that's been much easier to work with than the self-doubt.

    For example, I realised the other day that the reason I've never seriously considered travelling to a festival in Egypt is because I've always unconsciously assumed I'm not 'good enough' or not the kind of 'proper' dancer who does that kind of thing! I also sometimes feel this way about taking private lessons with new teachers. And I spend a lot of time desperately wishing that show organisers would consider me as a performer for their live music events, but have never had the confidence to actually ask them, then get depressed when I see less experienced dancers getting selected.

    One of my resolutions right now is to be more aware of this tendency, and start just doing what I really want to and sticking my neck out, even if there's a chance I'll look silly or get rejected.

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    All of what Roshanna says goes for me too. I just can't see myself as a proper dancer, that's for ballet types who spend hours in class every day, not the likes of me, especially when you add in the age factor. I've not been dancing much lately due to injury, so my impostor syndrome has transferred itself to work instead.

    Also being a lazy cow does me no favours whatsoever.

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    Other people's opinion and stereotypes. Examples:
    "She is too old to learn bellydancing" (I was 32 when I started)
    "Why would a married woman want to learn bellydancing? How would her houseband feel when she dances public dressed in a bd costume?" (I am married)
    "She is too skinny to bellydance." (I am not curvy)
    "Bellydancers are arrogant/attention seeking/good at sex/not educated/not feminists/..."
    And the list goes on...

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    Anetta, thankyou for being brave and dancing despite all the negative comments. <3

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