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    Default How do I watch a bellydancer??

    How do I watch a bellydancer? Where do I look? Do I look at her belly? Is it rude just to look at her belly? I am uncomfortable!!!

    These are the questions asked by my workmates when I took them to watch a bellydance perfromance. To tell you the truth, I couldn't give a proper answers. I did say that they should look at the bellydancer as a whole not just the belly, but it didn't make sense to them. One guy said, "the dancer is doing some amazing stuff with her belly, how can I look at her else where??"

    Did this happen to any one? If so, how did/do you answer these questions??

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    With any solo dancer the audience watches her face for a fair part of the time...

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    Default Speaking of uncomfortable...

    Once we went to a Greek restaurant with some friends who brought along their friends, and one guy went bright red in the face when the belly dancer approached our table and then stared at the table the whole time. The dancer was really nice about it and tried to kind of be flirty and show it was all right to look at her, that it was nothing shameful. (Don't ask me how she did this without words; it would be quite beyond me, but she managed it splendidly.) Anyway, he was very uncomfortable and nothing we said seemed to make it any better.

    I think after this experience the bottom line is to relax and enjoy the performance. Wherever you want to look is probably fine. I mean she's dancing with her whole body, face, personality, and she wants you to enjoy what she can do; right? The other night at a Lebanese place, my friends and I were so impressed by one dancer's graceful arms that we told her how much we admired her arm and hand movements as we tipped her, and she seemed so pleased.

    I suppose if you're not panting laciviously while staring at her breasts or something, it's fine. I say just relax and look at whatever impresses or entertains you or stirs your heart with its beauty. For me, that's often the whole picture.

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    Default How to watch a bellydancer?

    Try doing it with your mouth shut.

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    lol da Sage! I think that a belly dancer that is performing has a more professional status going for her. She has practiced and she feels comfortable enough to wear that stunning and sexy costume. She freely bares her midriff wanting people to look at her while she dances to show off her polished moves.

    I went to a greek restaurant, (daSage knows it), in the Twin Cities this past winter. One of the dancers looked beautiful on stage, however, her skirt was down low on her butt, showing a little more than it should have. It must have slipped during her performance. I being the mother and nurse that I am, wanted to pull it back up for her...lol I didnt of course. Also, she was sweating profusely. It was not hot in the restaurant, so it could have been nerves, but once again, I wanted to tell her to sit down and rest in cool air and to drink some water so she didnt dehydrate. (The nurse again.) I was concerned she had not eaten or that she was sick and she shouldnt have been performing in the first place. (Gastroenteritis was going around.) I think everyone has a different reason for watching BDers and that reason sets precedence to what they look at and look for during her performance. Some are more critical because they know more about the dance, others may think it is sexy and they focus on the midriff and breasts and legs. Others like the guy turn bright red and they do not know what to do when the dancer comes near. I do not think there is a right or wrong way to look at the dancer unless, the thoughts are of pure evil.

    I PROMISE I will not pull your skirt up while dancing or pull you from the stage if you are sweating to take a break! lol

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    Heyyyyy I'll tell you the trick...
    As a fellow dancer/teacher its my obligation to save the dancer from the humiliation, so I take a small tip go near her, tip her, and wisper to her ear the problem. (thats why they love me he he lol)
    Till now the usual things are, a) skirt too low, b) skirt twisted and the cut is right in front or behind !! c) nipple out of bra (yes !!!)

    Now about how to watch a bellydancer i can give 2 answers:
    a) for the audience not related with bellydance, just to relax and enjoy it, have fun, dont be too much close with the bellydancer and look whats moving each time, if we didnt want people to look at us we would be dancing.
    b) for the bellydance audience, even if you dont like what you see, try to have a polite smile, and NOT comment during the show with your friends about how bad the dancer is (its very rude, and you have all the time to do it after lol).
    If you are known in your bellydance community and the dancer after aproach you for a comment, say something positive (whatever you find but real) like nice costume, nice hair, nice veil, whatever, save the correcting comments for another time, another day, a night of a performance is stressfull anyway, and the dancer may take it more negative than what you mean.
    Farida Fahmy have a priceless way to look at dancers, she look, inhale her sigaret, take out the smoke and smile !!! its amazing !!! its Classic !!!

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    maria aya

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    Default Very helpful...

    Maria Aya,

    I appreciated your answer to this question very much. Very well thought-out and informative. It is nice to get the perspective of someone who obviously has a lot of practical experience

    Didi

    P.S. You've seen a nipple poking out??? Thank God you had a way to tell the poor dancer!

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    How? Easy - just do as you would with any art form: take in the entire picture all at once, enjoy the moment, and reflect upon the divinely inspired craftwork you have just witnessed.

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    I was an ASL interpreter student for a time, and I find that the same holds true in dancing as it does in ASL. the hands (hips) are where the words are being "spoken", but the full meaning is not understood unless you really look at the whole person.

    I try to divide my time between reading the "words" (hips) and the "full story (body, facial exression, etc), and it is the best overall experience for me. Spending too much time concentrating on one or the other, and you miss out on the full "story"!

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    Default the ASL/bellydance connection

    Tangent:

    I keep on running into bellydancers who have been/studied to be ASL interpreters...much more than in the general population. I wonder why?

    ps I'm one too...

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