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    Default I need good honest advice

    Am I wrong to want to learn and experience more?

    Because if I’m not, why do I feel so bad about wanting something other than what my teacher has to offer? What’s makes worse is that For a good while I have been aware that she cannot offer what I’m looking for, a fact compounded after reading replies to a post on another thread. I know that some of her other students take classes with other teachers, so why do I feel like a 1st class S**T for wanting to do the same?

    When I started classes, my teacher was the only ‘real live’ bellydancer I’d ever seen before, maybe if I’d have known about the “bad press” I wouldn’t have gone, but in the absence of any other info (no internet), I took a recommendation, and jumped at the chance. Maybe I should have taken my friend Jeans’ advice and found a new teacher earlier, but, I stayed (as Jean keeps telling me - loyal to a fault).

    Kind Regards

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    If your teacher is not giving you what you want, then by all means I would definately move on .. there are a couple of things to bear in mind here "is she a good teacher" if she is, then supplement her with dvds, "is she teaching a style you'd rather not be doing" then look around for the style you want ...

    Taking two classes can get pricey, you'd have to sit down and search within and without "find what you want" then go for it :-)

    Not sure what "bad press" means here .. but you don't have to stay where you don't want to be ..

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    Heyas,

    I have exactly the same probbers. My teacher can't offer what I need, but cause I feel guilty I still pay to go to a lesson where I int learning owt. It's only these past few weeks that I haven't gone. If she can't offer you what you need, then you should move on. We shouldn't be the ones to feel guilty.

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    Why feel guilty? This natural to "outgrow" the class or if you figure out that it is not what you are looking for? Sometimes it helps to see an advanced class of a teacher to see what she is teaching- I was lucky enough to attend a class (as a spectator) of one of the teachers I was considering, it was a class that been dancing for a year and all they can do is some fitness-type stuff to shakira's music...

    I figured out what I liked better and also another dance school gave me option to choose between 2 teachers! (I am happy to have made the right choice to later figure out that my teacher is my brother's former class-mate...LOL)

    By all means get out and move on!
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    You are absolutely utterly 100% NOT WRONG in wanting to learn and experience more! It is something to be proud of IMHO.

    Remember you are paying for dance lessons, not to belong to a cult demanding loyalty (trying not to read between the lines too much here...). If you aren't getting what you want for your money you are free to take it elsewhere, you owe her nothing, just the respect for having introduced you to belly dance.

    Wanting to grow and develop is GOOD, moving forward is good. Teachers who love their subject are really happy to have inspired you into wanting take it further, recognise that they don't know it all, that there are other styles and other ways of teaching that might suit some students better. The "thou shalt have no belly dance teacher but me" type is deeply suspect IMO.

    We all start somewhere - sometimes you jump in and get lucky, sometimes you don't. As a beginner you are not to know. The good thing is you found belly dance at all

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    Quote Originally Posted by catwoman View Post
    Am I wrong to want to learn and experience more?

    Because if I’m not, why do I feel so bad about wanting something other than what my teacher has to offer? What’s makes worse is that For a good while I have been aware that she cannot offer what I’m looking for, a fact compounded after reading replies to a post on another thread. I know that some of her other students take classes with other teachers, so why do I feel like a 1st class S**T for wanting to do the same?

    When I started classes, my teacher was the only ‘real live’ bellydancer I’d ever seen before, maybe if I’d have known about the “bad press” I wouldn’t have gone, but in the absence of any other info (no internet), I took a recommendation, and jumped at the chance. Maybe I should have taken my friend Jeans’ advice and found a new teacher earlier, but, I stayed (as Jean keeps telling me - loyal to a fault).Kind Regards
    So you find Tesco does not provide you with what you need, is it disloyal to shop at Sainsbury's?
    We teachers are paid for our services/goods like everything else. If there are other teachers in your area try them out. You may after all return to your original teacher. Of course we all feel bad when we leave a teacher who has been our first teacher. I stopped going to lessons not because my teacher was a bad teacher or that maybe she couldn't teach me something, she can BUT she constantly has to teach new students and sorts out classes which suit the majority. This wasn't my friend and I so we formed a troupe and practise and go to workshops and I was then asked to start teaching in a nearby town. Disloyal, yes we felt it but the classes were no longer meeting our needs.And she understood that. And I made sure not to teach on her patch.
    If I remember rightly, you, like me are on Merseyside and there are some good teachers on both sides of the river..try them all out.
    As for bad publicity and I assume we are talking about the teacher on the other threads, if it doesn't affect you personally and you were happy with your tuition then I'd ignore it.
    And I have lost a student recently, one of my longest standing. She had started going to a class with another teacher who is in her own area and is finding travelling to me a bind now she has a local teacher. Yes I am sad to lose her but I understand her reasoning. Your teacher should also.

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    A good teacher will always attract students -- you are not obligated to help her meet the rent on her studio. Students will come and go and that's something any teacher must expect.

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    Loyalty is a lovely thing, but if you are not getting what you need from the classes, if you are no longer growing as a student, it's time to move on. If you can afford to take two classes, maybe that's the way to go. If not, or if you don't feel that will be valuable to you, why not keep in touch with the old teacher and go to haflas and workshops she organises, so you're not burning bridges, and so you maintain the relationship.

    Hopefully she is understanding and wishes you well.

    Let us know what you decide!

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    I am a teacher, not a cult leader. When students move on, I wave and wish them good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shanazel View Post
    I am a teacher, not a cult leader. When students move on, I wave and wish them good luck.

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