Yasmine Bint Al Nubia
Moderator
I keep watching these videos of these absolutely beautiful, expressive, amazing dancers, and I keep wondering to myself, "Will I *EVER* be able to do that?"
I'm eager to take lessons from a renowned instructor in the area, but I'm really afraid to, because Ive heard she has certain ideals of what a dancer should look like, and I don't fit the criteria. Ive seen her students, and they are all about 5-7 inches taller than me, and weigh about 20-30lbs less than I do. *sigh*
Ive never been the type of person that had to take years to master something. Ever since I was a little girl Ive been quick to pick up everything. So imagine my surprise and frustration when I realize that YES belly dance IS going to take YEARS to master.
For the first time in my life, I feel fat and slow. I dont like this feeling. I love to dance so much! But I hate the feeling I get after Im done and think to myself, "Ah man, I KNOW I could have done this better, that better etc etc"
Anybody else ever feel like that in the beginning? How did you get over it? What kinds of things helped you? I need some encouragement!
Yes, Amber, we all at some point feel that we are out of our element when we begin to take classes. I've also seen many students who suffer from an unrealistic view of themselves and potential. It is unrealistic to expect any new student to immediately pick up and master a new step. It is realistic for the student to practice and do the best they can do, with the understanding that the mind and body will connect with the material as it's becomes more familiar. It is also unrealistic to expect new students to think they have to thin and tall as these criteria have no bearing whatsoever on the strength and flexibility necessary to dance. It is realistic for new dancers to begin slowly and develop the mental and physical discipline to excel.
Those beautiful and graceful dancers that you have seen, all started as beginners and what they discovered was hard work and preserverenc are the keys to success. They dance with emotion and flow along with the music..because they know the dance is more than just steps.
At this point don't be your own worst enemy.. turn those negative feelings into fuel ..to push you toward your goals. As for that teacher, it's important that you find someone who not only is knowledgeable but also can create an encouraging learning atmosphere. Good Luck and Happy Dancing
Yasmine