I've been befriending people like a kid in a candy shop. But I notice that it isn't really done here.. Not like Facebook
Is there any benefit to befriending? Other than having so many lovely people to look at one my profile page?
Hi Tarabelly,
There might be some benefits to befriending people (and I appreciate any invitations I get), but I don't like the idea that I have to make those decisions on every message board I belong to! On Tribe, I stopped accepting friends whom I hadn't met in person after dealing with some skeezy people and drama whores. Here and on Bhuz, I refuse to even start playing the friends game.
If I ever need references for online dealings, I can refer people to dancers who know me in real life! Otherwise, I like my online record (good, snarky/whiny/aggressive, or indifferent) to speak for itself.
I'm sure I miss out on some things because I haven't "friended" everyone who's asked me. But I don't like the idea of "endorsing" someone I haven't even met, and I just don't want to deal with the friend function every time I go online.
oO;; "Endorsing"? Are you talking about bellydance business?
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But please don't think I'm berating you, daSage; to each his/her own. I guess there are those (and I'm not talking about anyone here, I'm thinking of other online communities) who go around "befriending" people, just to up their popularity. That is self-serving nonsense, and I don't like such practices.
I hope nothing I've said offended you, and even if you don't like the Friends Thing here, I still like you. *hugs*
There are a number of people here whose wisdom I have a deep respect for, and there are those whose beautiful, positive, and sweet dispositions absolutely shine (like Lydia's, for instance), and when these people don't get to be online for whatever reason, it does leave a hole in the community that can be felt.
I agree, befriending here is a bit arbitrary and shouldn't be taken too seriously, but still a nice gesture.
I like Facebook. But being the privacy fiend that I am, I have it set up so that no one but my friends can see anything about me, other than my name, and can't send me messages or anything. Farasha, you could change your settings and do the same - and also reject all apps. Plus I think the apps phase is mostly over now, thank goodness.