Shanazel
Moderator
Dear Shanazel,
We can only stand so much sugar..... or is that.... We can only stand so much, Sugar.
Hugs to Y'all,
A'isha
:lol: Shall I pass the Sweet n' Low? Or the insulin?
Dear Shanazel,
We can only stand so much sugar..... or is that.... We can only stand so much, Sugar.
Hugs to Y'all,
A'isha
I notice those Southern girls from further north than me forgot, "Goodness gracious, aren't you sweet to be thinking of me and my little ol' show! Well, bless your heart, we have a full show planned; I am just so sorry that I didnt know you were working on beleditechnoromanbhutofusion. Do tell me what on earth inspired you to compose this interesting number! Did you study with someone new???"
Lord, can you imagine the three of us all in the same room, cooing and purring to the would-be performer?
Kharis does have a valid point about the line between trying to be supportive and risking compromising one's own standards and principles (as a teacher or as a leader in the dance community). I remember from my Mom's days as an art student how she talked about facing "critiques" from her professors and fellow students. (Keep in mind, I was about 5 to 7 years old, so the word stuck in my head as a "big people word.") The critiques were an expected part of the curriculum: the artist had to not only expect compliments and criticism in the critique, the artist's reaction to the process was part of the grade.At what point do we bite our tongues and try to be nice to people . . .
Well, ya'll should know I didn't want to perpetuate stereotypes!
Very astute of him!"You need to decide whether you want to treat this as your hobby or your art. And, if you decide to call it your art, you have to treat it that way and give it the respect it deserves."
Many people have waited silently to be chosen (for artistic collaboration, a promotion at work, etc), only to be told later, "Oh! I had no idea you were interested!", which puts the blame for a missed opportunity back on them. Such people would rather put themselves forward a little bit, even risking being considered presumptuous, instead of wondering later, "What if I had said something?"
Dear Reen,
I am not sure this is how it works all the time. I know that in my dance company, it is not important to us if a person is well known or popular or whatever. What we are looking for is who can enhance our performances on some level.
Regards,
A'isha
That's why I like your apporoach, too many times it is the loudest and the one who knows how to push him/herself forward gets the place, and not according to the real merits.
Dear Reen,
This is going to sound SO horrible, and I am just not sure how to say it in a nice way. I mean it less as a criticism of what is going on in the world of Middle Eastern dance today and more as an observation. Some years ago someone told me that in order for many people to understand that I am very good at what I do, I was going to have to learn to toot my own horn, because too many people simply do not understand the difference between a good dancer and a bad one. I guess some people feel they have to really get their attention so that they can have half a chance to show what they are made of. I have come to realize that this person was right, that many dancers do not know the difference between a real dancer and someone who puts on a flashy show but has no substance. This goes in the class room as well as on stage, until students get to take a class from a person who is a teacher in their very soul and not just a person who demonstrates dance. On stage, it is often the dancers with gimmicks that get the most attention. It can be very frustrating for those who know they offer a quality product, but can not get anyone to take them seriously. This is why I have spent years getting at the meat of the matter and seeing beyond the flashy costumes and glitzy gimmicks. I want to see people who can really dance succeed!! I can hopefully include myself in that group and treat others the way I would choose to be treated.
Regards,
A'isha
and that is exactly where i hope to be someday. not necessarily to be famous or anything, but to be seen by other dancers as having good technical and interpretive abilities, as well as entertaining an audience.