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    [QUOTE=karena;108419]
    You don't see commonality in what brides traditionally wear to weddings?? I see nothing but.
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    What is a traditional and patriarchal wedding dress?

    I never said I don't see brides wearing the same old thing to weddings - I do! That's why I mentioned ball gowns. I see them on brides everywhere.
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    Oi double post. Sorry.

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    To me traditional is something ballgowny that you'd never normally wear in the daytime, and white-ish. Make a statement by changing the colour (red? ) or style (maybe a tailored white or cream suit). Change both and everyone wonders who the bride is!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniseteph View Post
    To me traditional is something ballgowny that you'd never normally wear in the daytime, and white-ish. Make a statement by changing the colour (red? ) or style (maybe a tailored white or cream suit). Change both and everyone wonders who the bride is!
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    I'm not really big on definitions, it would just be my definition (which if course would have commonality with others, but I can be pretty sure people don't need that stating). But if people are able to send round an email (not here, but people talked about how it was circulated) with pictures of this wedding dress in a 'goodness me what is she wearing' vein, then people must be drawing on a shared notion of what a bride should wear in order to make the comparison.

    And for brides to be 'alternative' there must be something to be 'alternative' from, otherwise that reference wouldn't work either.

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    I started this thread in a "Wah! Too cool!" vein, but then I recall when brides were getting married in tiny baby doll minidresses that barely covered their dear little lace edged bikini panties, and have seen all sorts of fashions come and go in wedding attire. We get a lot of prairie styles in this part of the country for western themed weddings where the bride wears white cowboy boots and the groom wears his best black jeans and bolo tie.

    My favorite quote re: suitable bridal wear comes from a bridal specialist (tres, tres French she was) who was faced with a bride who kept wanting the neckline of her dress to be cut lower: "Does Mademoiselle intend to carry them up the aisle on a silver tray?"

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    immer glimmer

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    If I knew how to bellydance before I got married, and wanted to perform at my wedding, I'd do it too!!

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    I love it too! I think she looks gorgeous!

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    Quote Originally Posted by karena View Post
    For me just because there is a tradition (based on pretty outdated and patriarchal stuff) that you wear a certain thing to a wedding, doesn't mean you should. I find it pretty dodgy that people spend a lot of money and world's resources on a dress that it worn once. So getting a dress that reflects your passion and you can use again to me is bang on.
    To me it is not about the tradition, but about the atmosphere- the once in a lifetime thing. Also many people choose to rent a dress or buy one second hand, or sell theirs on. Another option would be to donate it to charity shop or to a bride that cant afford one.(That's what i plan on doing)

    Well, my dress wont cost thousands of pounds, so I would NOT go as far as to call it 'world resources'...

    Wait, does cycling everywhere i go(even to do weekly shopping...eeek) make up for the 'wasted' dress?I can bet that owning a car puts a far greater toll on the above mentioned resources than once a life time getting a pretty dress.... LOL

    To everyone their own after all....

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