For me just because there is a tradition (based on pretty outdated and patriarchal stuff) that you wear a certain thing to a wedding, doesn't mean you should. I find it pretty dodgy that people spend a lot of money and world's resources on a dress that it worn once. So getting a dress that reflects your passion and you can use again to me is bang on. :dance:
Actually I don't think most "traditional" wedding gowns are patriarchal. Like I don't see ball gowns which are probably the most popular style of wedding dresses today and almost a "tradition" as patriarchal. Unless by "traditional" you mean white. And the idea that a bride should wear white was actually made popular by a woman - Queen Victoria! Is there even a "traditional" wedding dress? Western wedding dresses seem to have changed so much throughout the centuries that I can't even think about what's traditional.
You don't see commonality in what brides traditionally wear to weddings?? I see nothing but.
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What is a traditional and patriarchal wedding dress?
I never said I don't see brides wearing the same old thing to weddings - I do! That's why I mentioned ball gowns. I see them on brides everywhere.
To me traditional is something ballgowny that you'd never normally wear in the daytime, and white-ish. Make a statement by changing the colour (red? :shok or style (maybe a tailored white or cream suit). Change both and everyone wonders who the bride is! :lol:
For me just because there is a tradition (based on pretty outdated and patriarchal stuff) that you wear a certain thing to a wedding, doesn't mean you should. I find it pretty dodgy that people spend a lot of money and world's resources on a dress that it worn once. So getting a dress that reflects your passion and you can use again to me is bang on. :dance: