khanjar
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This '' Manly'' thing as used for example in this context, '' BellyDance is not manly'', the assumption made largely in the west. I have been pondering this concept of ''manly'' for some time now, and have it that it is indeed a concept, an idea and nothing more besides an unwritten code of stereotypical ideas.
For example, look up the word '' manly '' and you come up with largely nothing, but pertaining to the word ''masculine''. Look up masculine and you come up with ''male like charachteristics'', which leads nowhere, except the stereotypical male ideals and ideas.
So, what are the stereotypical male ideals, well, from my research they are what the media tell us they are, as no one I know is like what is portrayed in the media, some may live up to the media ideals, want to be like them, but what the media portrays, might very well be fantasy and what people try to aspire to might be depriving them from just being themselves.
Take the movie industry, and the advertising industry of the former, movies, in what context is the 'hero' seen, often arduous situations, the leader of the pack, the epitome of virility and things akin to what we might think of men back in the year dot when survival was a game of hunting, killing and dragging the woman back to the cave by their hair. Fine for those times, but times have changed, no longer do we need to be a caveman to exist. The advertising industry, again, what context are the most popular 'manly' products sold in, definately not holding the baby in the home, yet in reality, many men do hold the baby in the home.
The other thing about being manly in the present age, is it is an excuse, nothing more than that, a word males can hide behind to justify bad modern social behaviour, behaviour there are many prosecutable laws against, excessive drinking, brawling to name a couple, there being others obviously, many of them if not all not acceptable in civilised modern society.
The other thing 'Manly' is, is an excuse to the self to thwart the self in seeking new adventures, pleasures and learning.
So, for all those male would be dancers that look in here, have the courage to be yourself.
For example, look up the word '' manly '' and you come up with largely nothing, but pertaining to the word ''masculine''. Look up masculine and you come up with ''male like charachteristics'', which leads nowhere, except the stereotypical male ideals and ideas.
So, what are the stereotypical male ideals, well, from my research they are what the media tell us they are, as no one I know is like what is portrayed in the media, some may live up to the media ideals, want to be like them, but what the media portrays, might very well be fantasy and what people try to aspire to might be depriving them from just being themselves.
Take the movie industry, and the advertising industry of the former, movies, in what context is the 'hero' seen, often arduous situations, the leader of the pack, the epitome of virility and things akin to what we might think of men back in the year dot when survival was a game of hunting, killing and dragging the woman back to the cave by their hair. Fine for those times, but times have changed, no longer do we need to be a caveman to exist. The advertising industry, again, what context are the most popular 'manly' products sold in, definately not holding the baby in the home, yet in reality, many men do hold the baby in the home.
The other thing about being manly in the present age, is it is an excuse, nothing more than that, a word males can hide behind to justify bad modern social behaviour, behaviour there are many prosecutable laws against, excessive drinking, brawling to name a couple, there being others obviously, many of them if not all not acceptable in civilised modern society.
The other thing 'Manly' is, is an excuse to the self to thwart the self in seeking new adventures, pleasures and learning.
So, for all those male would be dancers that look in here, have the courage to be yourself.