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    For those of you who are professionals (and by that I mean anyone who gets paid to dance in any situation), do you do bachelor parties? Why or why not? If you do, what have your experiences been like? Do you bring an extra person along for security? I'd like to hear whatever anyone has to say about them.

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    Hi Zarina, Our school and I do not perform at bachelor parties. We believe that the audience at bachelor parties will not appreciate the artistry of Oriental dance in relation to its cultural roots. Men at bachelor parties(at least in America), are often drunk or on their way to drunkenness and therefore can be rude if not dangerous. The expectation of this type of audience is one of sexual titillation, in the form of removing clothing ,etc.
    IMO, even strippers aren't safe in this type of environment. Men seem to be well behaved when there are other women around in the audience.
    I'm not putting down men in general, but describing behavior that occurs in less than gentlemanly circumstances.
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    No, I do not dance at bachelor parties, for the reasons Yasmine mention and for many other reasons, it is not safe not good for the dance is degrading, Marie

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    Me neither. But I do hens nights. Although I hate them. It is very different here from hens nights in Holland. The Dutch hens nights are more like whole hens, days so the women are not drunk when they have their belly dance workshop and they seem genuinely interested in doing workshops. Here they are just drunk and annoying. But I do these workshops because they pay well and in hope I can still educate some people...

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    I've never done any bachelor parties (just started performing anyway lol), but I'm sure I'll NEVER EVER do such a thing. Most reasons have been mentioned already. Now about hens nights I don't know, if it's workshops I'd have to learn how to teach first
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    what are hens nights?

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    Moon, hens' night is the girls' equal to bachelor parties.

    I've never done a bachelor party gig either and I've decided to take on a policy of not doing any in the future. Maybe it is unfair and stereotyping from our side as well, but indeed, all-male audience and the reputation of such parties can harm you, your performance and dance in general.

    Hens' nights would be cool though... Assuming they are adequate (read: more on the sober side), of course...

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    Thanks Maariku.
    I'm still a beginner but if I'd ever perform for money, I wouldn't do bachelor parties either. Hens' nights maybe (I hate that term by the way, why isn't it called "women's bachelor party"?)
    I would never want a bachelor party for myself either if I'd plans to get married.

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    Hey Moon! Actually, I think there is also a term "Bachelorette party", which should be the more formal term for hens' night. Native speakers, correct me if I'm wrong.

    And I think the bachelorette parties are a rather nice thing. A girlie-night with a "meaning". And they are a great excuse to have a party hafla-style!

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    I agree with what the others have said--no bachelor/all male parties. Safety and concerns about appreciation of the dance are part of it, but also, as dancers in the States anyway, many of us and the women who came before us have had to work very hard to dispel myths about this dance form and present it as an art, a women's dance, something altogether different from stripping. Doing all-male parties undermines that. (Historically too there are also icky echos of the European orientalist-imperialist period when one performs for the pleasure of men...but that's deeper than I'm going to delve right here.) I *did* once do a party that was termed a bachelor party...but it was actually a couples party--more like a shower--so the audience was mixed and the mother of the groom (who was at the party) hired me because there was some Arabic heritage/history involved and she/her son saw having a dancer as a sign of celebration, not as sexual send off or point of embarrassment. (We had a long conversation before I agreed to the gig.)

    Women's parties (including bachellorettes and bridal showers) are an altogether different matter. That's much more in line with the traditions of the dance. It's celebratory, interactive, women-dancing-for-women...and when I teach a mini-workshop in these settings, it's more about the women enjoying each other's company and their own feminine power than a single woman's last hurrah, if you know what I mean.

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