Now the problem that we have world wide and throughout history, is societal programming, this notion that came from where (?) that each of the genders are to do or be what in other people's eyes, something which quite often goes against the personal grain, why I ask, why are we expected to Kowtow to some unwritten rules to exist.
Most societal programming is a benefit to society. It keeps us from abusing each other. When it does the opposite, it needs to be eliminated. Societal programming is just peer pressure on a large scale and it can be used for good or bad. Some unwritten rules are a good thing