Is this normal for a belly dance instructor to do?

Larry

New member
A friend of mine had a very elderly looking teacher, looked to be in her 80's and she said her movements seemed "stiff" so she said she would massage her belly.

She rubbed and squeezed her belly and my friend was just laughing because she was ticklish, and the woman said that she had "a nice soft tummy"

She even poked her finger into her belly button, not sure how that's part of the massage? Is any of this a regular thing for belly dance teachers to do?
 

Kashmir

New member
No! And it is pointless. It is the joints that are likely to cause stiffness. A good warmup before class would be more useful. I suggest your friend finds another "teacher".
 

Roshanna

New member
Well, this post ticks all the fetishist boxes... New user with only one post who does not seem to be a bellydancer, weird stuff focusing on body parts and tickling... Hm.
 

Larry

New member
No! And it is pointless. It is the joints that are likely to cause stiffness. A good warmup before class would be more useful. I suggest your friend finds another "teacher".
Thank you for your response :)

As a couple of people have guessed, it didn't really happen - I had asked something like this on another site a while ago, and someone had answered that this was normal so I wanted to see how true that was. Thanks for answering my question~
 

Shanazel

Super Moderator
We have such good filters anymore that it is sort of nostalgic to have either trolls or creepy fetishists. I haven't smitten anyone in the longest time.
 

Larry

New member
We have such good filters anymore that it is sort of nostalgic to have either trolls or creepy fetishists. I haven't smitten anyone in the longest time.
Yes it's a good site - though I wasn't just trying to troll people and waste people's time, I genuinely wanted to know if what I described sounded like something that happens since some people have described dance teachers to to be a little touchy.

Good that that's not the case.
 

Farasha Hanem

New member
Yes it's a good site - though I wasn't just trying to troll people and waste people's time, I genuinely wanted to know if what I described sounded like something that happens since some people have described dance teachers to to be a little touchy.

Good that that's not the case.
Then why describe a scenario from your imagination, instead of giving an actual example as described by other dance students? Your explaination doesn't cut it.

Good teachers can be hands-on, but they poke and prod you to get you to move your body correctly, not play with students' bellies.
 

Shanazel

Super Moderator
I'm a dance teacher. We have enough challenges without someone making up weird-ass scenarios about what an imaginary teacher might do.

Try again, Larry. Say, "I'm sorry for starting out with a stupid lie and I promise not to do it again." Then tell us about your connection to and interest in dance and we'll go from there.
 

Larry

New member
Then why describe a scenario from your imagination, instead of giving an actual example as described by other dance students? Your explaination doesn't cut it.

Good teachers can be hands-on, but they poke and prod you to get you to move your body correctly, not play with students' bellies.
I don't really remember what the actual example was, but it was nothing close to what I described. I think it was the poking you mentioned.

I'm a dance teacher. We have enough challenges without someone making up weird-ass scenarios about what an imaginary teacher might do.

Try again, Larry. Say, "I'm sorry for starting out with a stupid lie and I promise not to do it again." Then tell us about your connection to and interest in dance and we'll go from there.
I'm sorry for starting out with a stupid lie and I promise not to do it again. While I think belly dancing is a great dance form, I wouldn't go out and see it since I am as someone described a "creepy fetishist" and belly dancers may be uncomfortable with someone with a belly fetish watching them.

I'll try to make clear how far I am on the "creepy" factor - now there's nothing wrong with finding bellies sexually attractive however I certainly can see it as creepy to sign up on a bellydancing site to make up a story for a question.

That being said, I'm not the type that would ask that in the hopes that if teachers were that touchy feely then I'd try become a teacher. That's not just creepy, that's lock that freak up type of creepy.

While I'm not a mess like that, I can understand if people aren't comfortable with me being here as I still did a fairly creepy thing [or very creepy depending on your opinion] so if I were to be banned for it... Well, that's up to you folks.
 

Darshiva

Moderator
There's plenty of porn out there that suits your fetish without coming into a safe space where bellydancers talk shop. Don't you think it's a bit rude of you to come into OUR space and foist YOUR fetish on us without any concern for our consent?

There's nothing wrong with having a fetish. It's a normal part of being a healthy, sexually active person. Where I take issue is when you remove consent from the equation. There are better places to fulfil your needs on the internet and google will help you find them. We have been more than patient with you. Perhaps it is time for you to tuck your tail between your legs and wander off to a more suitable space to explore your fetish in a mutually consenting manner.
 

Larry

New member
There's plenty of porn out there that suits your fetish without coming into a safe space where bellydancers talk shop. Don't you think it's a bit rude of you to come into OUR space and foist YOUR fetish on us without any concern for our consent?

There's nothing wrong with having a fetish. It's a normal part of being a healthy, sexually active person. Where I take issue is when you remove consent from the equation. There are better places to fulfil your needs on the internet and google will help you find them. We have been more than patient with you. Perhaps it is time for you to tuck your tail between your legs and wander off to a more suitable space to explore your fetish in a mutually consenting manner.
It is rude, and you have. I suppose I should wander off.
 

Shanazel

Super Moderator
Okay. You apologized. Apology accepted. Behave yourself and as far as I'm concerned, you can stay. Being a belly man is no weirder than being a boob man or leg man... but be respectful from here on out, 'kay?
 

Larry

New member
Okay. You apologized. Apology accepted. Behave yourself and as far as I'm concerned, you can stay. Being a belly man is no weirder than being a boob man or leg man... but be respectful from here on out, 'kay?
Thank you - I would, but some members have expressed interest in me leaving so perhaps it's for the best I go.
 
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