I totally agree with everything you said. I'd like to point out that this notion that the dance is meant for only one gender or body type is a very recent notion created primarily in the context of the commercial market of the 20th century. Before that timepeople of all gender identities and body types could be found performing. If you lookat pictures of Egyptian dancers in the 19th century, none of them had coca cola bottle figures. The overwhelming majority of the were stout and thick waisted. It was only when the entertainment industry began to mirror the western model that skin color, gender and body image became matters of consideration. Now I'm not neccessarily saying that it was all a bad thing, but what I am saying and have been saying these many years is that we need to expand our consciousness because there is room for everybody. Also, when you consider thast this is primarily a social folk dance. However, we've placed such a heavy emphasis on the commercial aspect that these other aspects have been eclipsed.Everybody has a different body shape and the part of body we have with tiny muscles are the ones we need to work more for the dance, just for the sake of improving our dance and harmonious movement and not for the sake of any masculinity or feminity model.
So, you can dance if you can walk. You are not supposed to fit a certain way of gender style of oriental dance, for it does not exist really. Stating that you want to be you, that is the very basis of everything. You may explore videos of dancers, of any gender, who dance using upper and lower bodies to express themselves and pick up which ones you like as role models or teachers. Better to invest in a one-in-a-life time workshop with a dancer you like very much than wander to worry about dancing like A or B because they are males. Personally, i have learned great things from teachers with completely different bodies than my own shape type [not only because of different gender but because this is how they are born and i am born and we have to accept this as an advantage]. Believe me, the good teacher will assist you to dance with YOUR body and style and not with the imaginary-expected body and style people might stereotypically want from you.
I'd also like to mention that the mythology that sprang up to explain the origins of the dance once it was exported to the west, (especially in the context of attracting students for dance classes), has added to this. The truth of the matter is this dance is primarily an African form, one that belongs to a family of dances indigenous to the African continent. When we look to the other forms in the extended family, we see that neither body shape nor gender are a factor. This video clip is of a dance form from Cameroon called Asiko. What you will notice is the heavy emphasis on circular hip movements, the fact that it is unisex, that everyone dancing has a different body shape and that even handicaped people, providing they have the body parts necessary can dance as well. [video=youtube;aOJhnosI22k]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOJhnosI22k[/video]
There is more to dancing than performing professionally and the only limitations are the ones we have artificially created. I state again, the limitations that exist are ARTIFICIALLY CREATED. I dare say that if dance in Egypt was approached from the perspective of primarily cultural expression, rather than commercial, we would not be having these discussions.