I'll pay for hafla/recital tickets for the student events I do, but I don't count it as pay-to-perform, more pay to attend the event. I see being part of the show as fair exchange for the opportunity to perform. This is all student stuff though. It'd be different if I was a professional - then I'd be weighing up the time/money invested in the whole shebang against the exposure and the politics. I can see how if you got a chance to dance in front of wealthy types at a swanky charity do there might be some useful exposure in it.
I'm in that minority with you then. They've had your time and money to get there and perform, maybe some extra tickets sold... asking for a fee for the privilege is dead pushy. If they want to extract cash as well they can guilt trip me into buying raffle tickets. rotest:Then there are the charities where they expect dancers to pay, saying it's all for charity. I am in the minority over this as I think that is expecting too much.