karena
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So those here that are not of a typical majority uk type skin colour, you see we have a problem. The terms we use could be out of ignorance, or it could be because the whole subject is messed up to the point that no one really knows what is acceptable to all. I used the word 'coloured', to me that was a polite term of reference.
I dislike the term ' black ', because of reasons mentioned here by others, black people are not black, but many shades of the colour brown and if you look at it further, though I do not go out in the sun much, my skin colour as it is now due to normal everyday weathering, is a lighter shade of brown. Some would call that white, but I fail to see where a lighter shade of brown is white.
So you define yourself as 'coloured' too then? I think the concepts black and white goes some way beyond the colour of skin.
But whatever word is used one has to remember the context in which the word is used, surely people can discern from written sentence in what way a word is meant. If they can do this and understand, why pick up on one word in that sentence and display disgust, when they know no offense is meant by the words surrounding that word.
I have not seen any disgust displayed here. I think it was pretty respectfully and tactfully brought up and has stayed so throughout a discussion that could so easily descend into something very different.
Perhaps a way forward for all of us is for people of another ethnology, to not be so sensitive to single words in sentences, understand the context and forgive those others who struggle to choose the correct word when none yet is defined that is comfortable to all.
The white person can be offended too, just like a man can be offended about sexism, and able-bodied person can be offended about the joke about the disabled person. It is not for the people discriminated against to lighten up. Of course forgive and understand, but surely this can be at the same time as politely mentioning it. I'm grateful to the person who told me the America, USA distinction; it means I can communicate better without inadvertently offending and alienating people.
(Just to mention, from my many ethnically different friends, I have been called many things, whitey and others perhaps in the wrong context would be offensive, but I decided long ago, what I may be called by another, I will not take offense to, because for someone to attempt slander or ridicule by colour, is just a reflection on themselves. Any other adjective used to describe me, long haired yeti, fungus face, bean pole or similar, I can put up with, because it is only the person's observation and they are only one person, they are also things I can change if I so wished, but my skin colour, largely I can't change, so for someone to pick out a person for something they cannot change is frankly pathetic)
Exactly, possibly hence the sensitivity.