sansa
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So I had the wonderful experience of my first time at Art of the Belly in Ocean City, MD this weekend. I only stayed for Friday, took a couple of workshops, watched all the performances. It was fabulous.
I realized just this weekend that I've been studying belly dance for a year now. In the past year I've truly learned that I will belly dance as long as the universe lets me. I love it so much. It was great to see all the different dancers, levels, body types, styles all together in the workshops and on stage; which is one of the reasons I love this genre so much.
One thing made me a little sad, though. Although I'm new to belly dance, I've been performing for over 40 years in various capacities in the theatre and music worlds. One thing is common to all performance genres: people who are a little ... snotty, snobby, "I'm better than you and I can't believe you had the nerve to try to strike up a conversation with me." I find that awfully sad. I could never pretend to be able to explain what's behind such attitudes and the tendency to look down one's nose at others but I do know that I never, ever see it with the "headliners."
As I went through the day and evening, talking and small-talking with various people in my travels through the Carousel hotel, I noticed that every time the greeting was icy or non-existent, every time the attempt to just be friendly was met with that up-the-body-down-the-body glance (do you know what I mean?), it was always from someone who turned out to be a pretty good dancer but never from one of the instructors or those who turned out to be the real "stars" of the show. On the contrary, those dancers were gracious, friendly, humble, and seemingly very happy to take a moment to speak with one of us "lower ones."
My best and most memorable experience was with Jill Parker. I took her Shimmy Demystified class. We were standing outside the class space together and she opened up so easily and genuinely. Later she came in and spoke with my husband and me for a few minutes in the restaurant. The next morning she actually saw us in there again as she was about to leave the festival and stopped in again just to say "goodbye" and "nice to meet you." I was stunned at this and so happy. Because of that, truly, if she is ever anywhere near I will absolutely go to her classes again.
It never, ever hurts to be friendly and gracious to others. Seriously, if you're a great dancer - or singer or actor or anything for that matter - how can it hurt you if someone else is great or very good or none of the above? It doesn't matter how talented you are, you will be remembered for the person you are.
I realized just this weekend that I've been studying belly dance for a year now. In the past year I've truly learned that I will belly dance as long as the universe lets me. I love it so much. It was great to see all the different dancers, levels, body types, styles all together in the workshops and on stage; which is one of the reasons I love this genre so much.
One thing made me a little sad, though. Although I'm new to belly dance, I've been performing for over 40 years in various capacities in the theatre and music worlds. One thing is common to all performance genres: people who are a little ... snotty, snobby, "I'm better than you and I can't believe you had the nerve to try to strike up a conversation with me." I find that awfully sad. I could never pretend to be able to explain what's behind such attitudes and the tendency to look down one's nose at others but I do know that I never, ever see it with the "headliners."
As I went through the day and evening, talking and small-talking with various people in my travels through the Carousel hotel, I noticed that every time the greeting was icy or non-existent, every time the attempt to just be friendly was met with that up-the-body-down-the-body glance (do you know what I mean?), it was always from someone who turned out to be a pretty good dancer but never from one of the instructors or those who turned out to be the real "stars" of the show. On the contrary, those dancers were gracious, friendly, humble, and seemingly very happy to take a moment to speak with one of us "lower ones."
My best and most memorable experience was with Jill Parker. I took her Shimmy Demystified class. We were standing outside the class space together and she opened up so easily and genuinely. Later she came in and spoke with my husband and me for a few minutes in the restaurant. The next morning she actually saw us in there again as she was about to leave the festival and stopped in again just to say "goodbye" and "nice to meet you." I was stunned at this and so happy. Because of that, truly, if she is ever anywhere near I will absolutely go to her classes again.
It never, ever hurts to be friendly and gracious to others. Seriously, if you're a great dancer - or singer or actor or anything for that matter - how can it hurt you if someone else is great or very good or none of the above? It doesn't matter how talented you are, you will be remembered for the person you are.
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