da Sage
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So my friend and I are going to a science fiction convention. We are renting a room, and would like to split it four ways to save money. We're both women, and I originally planned to have an all-female room. Her friends would like to room with us, they are a M/F couple. I don't know them (maybe I do by sight, but I don't know that I do-we're setting it up by email).
Anyway, I shot the woman an email saying that that I was originally planning an all-woman room, but my bud says they're cool, so I'm OK with sharing with her and her BF/hubby/whatever. I let them know that we are both likely to store a lot of stuff in the room (costumes, drums), and that the room is to be used for changing, sleeping, and relaxing...that I'm not comfortable with partying or "discreet" sex in the middle of the night (I had a college roommate who thought she could get it on without waking me up. She was so wrong). Anyway, I just wanted to get all my "issues" out in the open. I haven't heard back from them yet.
So, whaddaya think...was I out of line to mention these things? Am I just a big square or a control freak? I just want to have a nice place to crash and stash my stuff, and I thought it would be better to talk about expectations first, instead of just hoping it'll all turn out the way I want it to.
Anyway, I shot the woman an email saying that that I was originally planning an all-woman room, but my bud says they're cool, so I'm OK with sharing with her and her BF/hubby/whatever. I let them know that we are both likely to store a lot of stuff in the room (costumes, drums), and that the room is to be used for changing, sleeping, and relaxing...that I'm not comfortable with partying or "discreet" sex in the middle of the night (I had a college roommate who thought she could get it on without waking me up. She was so wrong). Anyway, I just wanted to get all my "issues" out in the open. I haven't heard back from them yet.
So, whaddaya think...was I out of line to mention these things? Am I just a big square or a control freak? I just want to have a nice place to crash and stash my stuff, and I thought it would be better to talk about expectations first, instead of just hoping it'll all turn out the way I want it to.