DOs & DON'Ts : How to date a belly dancer

[Harry]

Rules: This games involves things that guys should remember if they really want to date a belly dancer. You may present something that will work (a DO), but you must also present the opposite (a DON'T) or vice versa. Here's a starter:

DON'T: presume that a belly dancer will want to go out with you just because you have great teeth, and wave a wad of money around. REASON: Hey, dude, she is a professional, probably has more education and money than you do, and she may also have a jealous significant other or husband.

DO: introduce yourself, and endeavor to learn something about the lady, and let her learn something about you. This won't happen overnight. Be patient. REASON: This can avoid a LOT of embarrassment, black eyes, and slaps in the face.

Got the idea? Okay, let's help the guys get it right. Apologies to the male dancers; if you like, go ahead and submit DOs/DON'Ts to the girls that want to pick you up.

 

[khanjar]

To me if I wanted to date a belly dancer, is I must first treat them as an equal and a human at that, not a profession.

 

[Erik]

Okay, this looks like fun.

DO: Ask how long she's been belly dancing, because no matter how long it is she will likely be proud of her achievement.

DON'T: Ask if she also knows how to dance with a pole.

 

[Shanazel]

DO listen to him talk about his truck/boat/yellow lab/baseball card collection. :clap:

DON'T try to talk him out of his favorite hip scarf/veil/sword/belly dance CD collection :naghty:

DO explore other interests you may have in common

DON'T limit the conversation to belly dance

DO tell him he looks nice today

DON'T tell him he's a great piece of eye candy.

DO ask how his week has gone

DON'T ask him his bust measurement.

DO ask him if he has seen the latest movie and what he thinks of it

DON'T ask him if he likes porn

DO tell him dinner at your house is casual: jeans allowed

DON'T suggest he bring a costume so he can be dessert

 

[Harry]

It looks like Shanazel has played this game before...

DO try to understand her moves, and show some interest in her art. Ask her to show you how she does some of her moves, and try it yourself. She won't laugh at you, she will laugh with you.

DON'T just sit there with your tongue hanging out ogling her.:naghty:

 

[Erik]

DO pretend to have a full understanding when she talks about beledi and salidi and Khaleegy.

DON'T ask, "Is that the one where you make the coins flip with your abs?"

 

[Harry]

Here's one I dedicate to Amulya :

DO be completely honest when she asks for your honest and candid opinion about the costume she just sewed and is modeling for you. She wouldn't ask YOU if she didn't want to know YOUR opinion.

DON'T keep placating her with platitudinous B.S. in place of the truth. She will notice you doing so.

 

[Erik]

DO tell her that her latest costume harkens back to a more romantic era.

DON'T blab that her latest costume reminds you of the curtains at Grandma's house when you were a kid.

It's called tact.

 

[Harry]

DO be considerate of her feelings on your first date, as she will be of yours. Take this time to learn about her, her likes and dislikes, etc. Remember, she's learning about you, as well.

DON'T assume that you will 'score' on this first date, just because she agreed to go out with you! :shok: :naghty:

 

[Erik]

Dedicated to Greek Bonfire and Aziyade

DO compliment her beautiful navel ring.

DON'T follow up the compliment with, "Is it pierced or clip-on?"

 

[Zorba]

Apologies to the male dancers; if you like, go ahead and submit DOs/DON'Ts to the girls that want to pick you up.

Since I'm married, I can't really contribute much - but one DON'T I can think of is DON'T tell a male dancer how horny his dance made you...

 

[Erik]

Since I'm married, I can't really contribute much - but one DON'T I can think of is DON'T tell a male dancer how horny his dance made you...

How about this:

DO tell him that it was a very interesting masculine interpretation of the dance.

DISCLAIMER: Normally not a big fan of cross-dressing, but I'd sooner take a chance on President Zorba in skirts than President Hillary in her power suit.

 

[Shanazel]

DO tell him you admire his musicality.

DON'T tell him his musculature makes you hot.

I'm married, too, Zorba, but I can still play the game.

 

[khanjar]

I apologise for my earlier comment, but I have been trying to understand what is going on by reading the replies, but I have to admit, it is lost on me, this is one of those advanced communication things, hypothetical questioning that I never understand.

 

[Harry]

@Khanjar : No apology needed. My intent for this little game is probably a result of my personal sense of the ridiculous. Through illustration of appropriate behavior, and the antithesis thereof, some of which is tongue-in-cheek, and unfathomable by truly reasonable people, the attempt is to proclaim that legitimate practitioners of the belly dance art are normal people with feelings and intelligence, not some stereotypical persons of ill repute.

Dedicated to all married belly dancers, male or female:

DO befriend the belly dancer. He/She appreciates your appreciation of the art and the fact that you can express the appreciation.

DON'T be married and ask the belly dancer for a date. He/She'll find out; he/she may be married, as well, with a jealous spouse. Worse, your spouse could find out and then you will really be in deep doodoo.

 

[Zorba]

DISCLAIMER: Normally not a big fan of cross-dressing, but I'd sooner take a chance on President Zorba in skirts than President Hillary in her power suit.

Snort!

When you all elect me president, there will be some CHANGES made! :lol::dance:

OTOH, I don't cross-dress - according to my definition. I'd only be cross-dressing if I wore a bra, guys can wear skirts too!

No offense meant or taken! :clap:

 

[Zorba]

DO tell him that it was a very interesting masculine interpretation of the dance.

That would beat being groped on the belly.

DaVid tells the story of a woman who poured a bunch of coins in his pants...

 

[Erik]

DaVid tells the story of a woman who poured a bunch of coins in his pants...

Shocking. When are women like her going to realize that men are not just objects for a woman's enjoyment. We have feelings and emotions too!

DO take her to an ME restaurant with authentic cuisine, music, and dancing.

DON'T think of Disney's "Aladdin" on DVD and a pizza as a reasonable substitute.

 

[Daimona]

DON'T brag to your friends about your date being a belly dancer. Some of them will probably come with sexist remarks.

DO talk to your friends in a respectful and admiring way about both your date and the art, if the subject arrives (hopefully this will educate them as well).

 

[Darshiva]

DON'T think of Disney's "Aladdin" on DVD and a pizza as a reasonable substitute.

Unless she happens to be a fan of Disney/animated films and prefers to stay in & cuddle with comfort food to being taken to a crowded restaurant(because it reminds her too much of work!)